Breaking the ice—in any situation—is no easy feat. Whether you’re approaching someone at a bar, a party, or online, putting yourself out there can be an awkward and scary experience, even for people who are naturally outgoing.
Lucky for us, breaking the ice online is a lot easier and a lot less frightening than approaching someone in real life. You don’t have to deal with a crowd of people watching you, you can take a really long time thinking of what to say, and you have the assurance of knowing that the people you’re approaching are also single and open to meeting someone—after all, they’re on a dating site.
In a lot of ways, online dating presents far less pressure than dating in real life. You don’t have to buy new clothes, you don’t have to put effort into looking good for someone else, and you don’t have to worry about what anyone is going to think. You can relax and just be yourself. But online dating presents its own unique challenges. How are you going to get someone to notice you, when you’re online, without relying on the same tricks that used to get people to notice you in real life?
6 Simple Tips to Get Noticed on Online Dating Sites
1.To increase your profile views and get more messages
Trust me, people do notice your profile. Is it properly filled out? Is it specific? Do you have enough relevant information in your descriptions? Are you representing yourself honestly? Take a little time and write something about yourself. Even if it’s just a few words about your interests or where you are in your life, it’s gives people a better idea of who you are and what you’re looking for.
2.Your photo is worth a thousand words
Here’s a surprise: Some women just look at the pictures! So, you need photos. How are you going to attract anyone with a gray, faceless avatar? Unless they have a serious thing for faceless avatars (and nobody does) there is no way anyone is going to contact you for a date without a photo. In fact, people with more photos on their dating profile tend to get more messages.
3.View as many profiles as you can
Most dating sites allow people to see who’s viewed them. That means even if you don’t directly message someone, they can still get a sense of your interest since they know you’re checking them out. If you’re shy about messaging, or maybe just don’t have the time, viewing a lot of people can help you reach out.
4.Honesty is the best policy
Present yourself as the same person online and offline. Women are pleasantly surprised to meet a man who portrays himself accurately. Trust is necessary and starts with being honest about the superficial things (i.e. height, appearance, age, interests, etc.).
5.Think before you post or respond
Are you looking for an occasional dinner companion, a friends-with-benefits arrangement or a marriage candidate? They’re all out there. The more clarity and candor you can muster (within the boundaries of good taste), the better. A few dating sites allow men and women to fire off a canned “Hey, there!” message to interesting prospects. Better to write your own greeting and show you actually looked at the person’s profile. “I see that you love One Hundred Years of Solitude. That’s one of my favorite books, as well.” carries more weight and is more likely to get a response than a generic response.
Indirect methods of flirtation are always an option to help you get noticed. But if you’re the more adventurous type, the best way to get someone’s attention online is to write them a message. So go for it! More than anything, don’t be afraid to put yourself out there! One of the main benefits of online dating is that it makes it easier to be outgoing. Going up to someone in public or a bar can be daunting or feel aggressive. Sending someone a message on an online dating site is just part of how it works. So go out there and make it work for you!